Oh, sorry. [and she genuinely does mean sorry because she realizes sometimes she just says things without thinking through how they may come across.] But you're right. We've talked about this a little before, haven't we? Just doing our best to try. I don't think anyone can say anything bad about people making attempts.

[she looks curious, like she wants to ask iwa more about his friend, but her own expression shifts to match. that's...a loaded question, and she does understand why he's asking. so she takes a moment to herself to think of the best answer.]

For me? I think maybe just...the basics, really. Even if I don't understand why I feel the way I do about things, sometimes just saying out loud "I'm hurting" or "I'm angry" helps to focus on the next step to share. The acknowledgment that you feel it at all is the biggest step.